When we turn to addictive substances, relationships and behaviors, it is often because we are trying to drown out the voices of our inner demons. They play off of our deepest fears, of inadequacy, inferiority, abandonment, loss, rejection. They tell us that we’re not good enough, that we aren’t deserving of love, that we are inferior to other people, that we don’t measure up. They are so convincing that we grow to believe them. We mistake their voices to be our own inner voice. Healing mentally, emotionally and spiritually means facing our inner demons, taking back control of our minds and regaining our power. To face our inner demons and our insecurities, first we must become conscious of them. We’ve come to believe they represent who we really are. We believe the lies they tell us. We must start to differentiate between the truth of who we are what our inner demons want us to believe is true about ourselves. Pay attention to how you talk to and treat yourself. Do you take good care of yourself or do you neglect yourself? Is your self-talk kind and supportive or is it cruel and disparaging? Do you feel worthy and deserving, or have you adopted a sense of unworthiness about yourself? Are your beliefs about yourself empowering or limiting? Start the process of learning yourself and becoming familiar with who you are, starting with how you think and feel about yourself. Notice the recurring themes that come up. Maybe you dwell on a specific mistake or regret. Maybe your inner demons cause you to obsess about specific things, events or people. What are the underlying themes? What kinds of things trigger them and bring them on? For many of us, we are triggered by things that cause us to be reminded of the fear and pain of our original traumas. For example, if we were traumatized by a loss early on in life, the possibility of losing a friendship or relationship later on as an adult can be particularly triggering. Our inner demons will try to keep us from making these important connections, piecing together the various components of our lives, connecting the dots to gain more understanding. They will try to convince us to avoid the truth, to blame ourselves, to see our losses as evidence of our inherent unworthiness, to bury your feelings with your addictions. Try to push through the demons to analyze on a deeper level the themes and patterns of your life. An important part of healing from our inner demons is realizing and believing that they are not real. They are not the truth of who we are. They are illusions that our minds created out of our fears. When we begin to realize this and face our fears head on, we start to see through the illusions of our inner demons. We start to see ourselves for who we really are.
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